Polyamory is often misunderstood as a simple upgrade to swinging. It's vital to approach it organically, emphasizing communication, boundaries, and personal growth rather than treating it as a goal or strict structure.
Tag: Advice
When the Novelty Wears Off
The post discusses the evolution of relationships in the context of lifestyle changes, emphasizing the transition from superficial connections to meaningful bonds. It highlights the importance of authentic relationships over mere physical attraction, encouraging individuals to seek deeper connections and cultivate friendships for a more fulfilling experience in polyamorous lifestyles.
Navigating Online Connections: Your No-Nonsense Vetting Guide
The Digital Handshake: A Veteran’s Guide to Vetting When I first dipped my toes into the lifestyle back in 2012, I’ll admit it: I was thrilled with any level of attention. My phone would buzz, and I’d respond quickly to just about anyone. Fast forward over a decade later, and my approach has drastically changed.… Continue reading Navigating Online Connections: Your No-Nonsense Vetting Guide
The Unlearning
Rules Are for Classrooms: What 14 Years of ENM Taught Me to Forget When my husband first convinced me to step into this world back in 2012 with the classic line, "It’s just a great way to make friends," I came reluctantly without much direction. Did we need a clipboard with a list of rules,… Continue reading The Unlearning
Pineapples, Perfume and Poly… Part 2
A huge shout-out to Dave94015 for commenting on my last post and inquiring on the status of the gentleman I met at the club. Let me see if I can summarize the last two weeks or so. The drive home was a mix of deep conversation and general get-to-know-you chit-chat. I was personally impressed how… Continue reading Pineapples, Perfume and Poly… Part 2
On New Experiences
The one thing I can promise you is this: if you get into the lifestyle you are going to experience something new at least once, but probably at least a handful of times. For me, it started with a girl, something that never even crossed my mind until it actually happened. Ladies, if you've never… Continue reading On New Experiences
Creating Your Profile – The Personal Details
I can not stress enough how effective a well written profile can be and how detrimental a poorly crafted attempt is. This is not a case of less is best! For me, if I see a profile that lacks effort and information I expect the same from the person attached to it. This is your… Continue reading Creating Your Profile – The Personal Details
Creating Your Profile – Swapping Details
So you've managed to find at least one decent photo of yourself to start with, so now comes the part that tells the world who you are and what you're looking for: profile details. Some of this will be fairly easy, some will require a good bit of thought. One part you’ll want to decide… Continue reading Creating Your Profile – Swapping Details
Creating Your Profile – Photos
Anyone venturing into the world of nonmonogamy will need to spend some time focusing on their profile. This is the first impressing many people will have of you as they seek and find potential connections. I can tell you that as of this entry there are many different ways to make and find connections, various… Continue reading Creating Your Profile – Photos