So you’ve managed to find at least one decent photo of yourself to start with, so now comes the part that tells the world who you are and what you’re looking for: profile details.

Some of this will be fairly easy, some will require a good bit of thought. One part you’ll want to decide first is what swap level you’re interested in exploring. Typically you’ll hear either full swap or soft swap and then preference on rooms. I have a brief description of each below.

Full swap is when you swap partners and everything is generally on the table.

Soft swap is when you switch partners but penetration is not included. Oral and manual stimulation are generally on the table.

Watch is simply that, you’ll watch your partner with someone different, another couple or single male/female and you may do this with or without your own primary partner.

Same room/separate room is another detail you’ll want to consider. Are you more comfortable staying in the same room with your primary partner during activities or is it okay to play in separate rooms?

You can be comfortable with one or all of the arrangements, nothing is right or wrong. Always remember it’s whatever you are comfortable with. This decision should also be fluid and open to revisitation and change with experience and time. The more you explore the more you’ll learn about yourself. The more you learn about yourself the more you begin exploring new boundaries.

If you’re totally unsure what’s right for you, start with the basics of soft swap and see how that works out. Be prepared to talk about everything with your primary partner after an encounter. This is your chance to understand how each other felt about the situation. Take notice to what felt good, what felt uncomfortable and what else did you want that wasn’t on the table? Never be afraid to change your arrangement! If something doesn’t work, don’t do it again. Learn from each experience, communicate and keep growing and changing!