I can not stress enough how effective a well written profile can be and how detrimental a poorly crafted attempt is. This is not a case of less is best! For me, if I see a profile that lacks effort and information I expect the same from the person attached to it. This is your first impression for someone who finds you via online channels, you are being judged (like it or not) by every piece of your profile!
We’ve covered the importance of photos, now comes the importance of what details you put into the world. In a lot of cases, the more you provide the better your initial connection can be. Take the time to explain who you are, both in physical attributes and personality.
Embrace yourself, highlight the features you love most. For me I always mention my red hair, as that’s something that tends to gather attention. Hubs is tall, something girls love. (BTW, do not lie about your height! I hate meeting someone who is supposed to be at least 2″ taller than me and ends up eye level. Total buzz kill with that first meet.) Some people will emphasize some of their more personal details like breast size or even penis size, but that’s a little less common.
Along with giving an idea what you look like you also want to give an idea of your personality. Is one of you a super sarcastic joker? Maybe she’s really quiet buy he won’t stop talking. Little things that might seem unimportant could be a big part of who you really are. You could even mention the type of people you tend to gravitate to, or simply can’t stand. If there’s something about someone you know is a deal breaker, you might as well put it in your profile and save everyone time.
Some people will talk about things they like to do, places they go a lot or even some of their experience. If you’re club members or frequent house parties with specific groups, you can mention these as a way to connect beyond the webpage.
No matter what you write, make sure it’s complete, portrays effort and is truthful. Do not try to be something or someone you really aren’t. The lifestyle is truly an accepting place and I can almost guarantee you’ll find someone to connect with if you’re patient and willing to do a little work.
Oh, and I’ll gladly put your profile through the ringer if you want! Send me a draft or give me your username on the site(s). I’ll do my best to offer my opinion, which is usually quite harsh when it comes to profiles!