The one thing I can promise you is this: if you get into the lifestyle you are going to experience something new at least once, but probably at least a handful of times.
For me, it started with a girl, something that never even crossed my mind until it actually happened. Ladies, if you’ve never kissed a girl you have to do at least that once! Through my years I dabbled in the whole bi-curious world of things but have reached a point where I don’t consider myself bi. I will play with girls, but it’s a very small select few that I know as friends and such and it’s evolved to include play, usually with spouses.
Multiples is another area that was totally new for me, and let me tell you I am growing more fond of the MFM arrangement! Ladies, the attention of two guys can be amazing and gentleman, this is an arrangement that is focused on the lady, you aren’t there to please each other. There may be incidental contact, don’t worry, it doesn’t change your sexual orientation. There are bi/bi-curious men in the lifestyle and they are becoming more accepted and welcomed. That’s another post for another day, but if you want a MMF then you’ll be searching for the bi-friendly men.
Most recently I connected with a gentleman via FetLife and experienced a little bit of hypno play. I’m still trying to wrap my head around all of it as it is really weird to have you body convulse into an orgasm simply by being told to. This was one of the most unique experiences to date and, for now, I think it’s going to be a one time experience.
I personally am still trying to figure out if I fit into the kink world at all. There’s only a little true overlap, typically true kink participants aren’t casually “swinging”. This blog will not touch on much kink or fetish experience. My only advice, if you’re truly interested in the segment of lifestyle, take it slow and find a community to grow and learn in. FetLife is a great starting point.
No matter what you decide to explore, be ready for the new experiences! You should try anything at least once, how else will you know if you enjoy it?
